3 Mistakes I Made in Wedding Planning

Happy Friday, friends! My honeymoon is coming to a close, but I wanted to still chat a few things wedding planning in case this will help anyone else out. Some of these may seem obvious, but it’s much harder in the thick of things. Let me know what you would add!

3 Mistakes I Made in Wedding Planning1. Caring too much what people think

This is a biggie in all parts of life for me, but especially during the wedding. I was worried Ben’s parents were judging me because I liked “pretty things” and they’re just not a big wedding-loving family. I was worried people would think our wedding was too “simple” when we decided to have it in Ben’s parents’ back yard. I was worried that I was asking too much when I wanted two signature drinks or things set-up a certain way. I was worried that people would get “mad” if I told them they couldn’t bring their husbands or the random kid down the street was not allowed to just show up. I was afraid to ask my bridesmaids to help (thankfully they all know me and stepped in anyway.)

Honestly, the amount of time I spent worrying about what other people thought killed me once we had to switch the wedding to the suburbs. I cared *less* in the beginning of planning because Ben and I were planning to pay for everything / set everything up ourselves. When that went down the drain and other people were stepping in to help and I started to care too much.

2. Not saving for years prior to the wedding

Now, this is just all wrapped into “I wish I was better with my finances in general before we got married” but that’s not the way life went for us. So, for you if you haven’t gotten married yet, start saving. Start paying off debt. You never know what life’s going to thrown your way (like a life-altering illness that steals all your money and time and life) and having a cushion, not even just for a wedding, would take off so much of the pressure. If you haven’t started planning for a wedding yet, just know that things are WAY more expensive than you’re anticipating and little things add up, even if you’re doing a “simple” wedding like us. Start putting wedding aside as soon as you start talking about marriage or just put a lot of time/effort toward the debt you might have so you don’t have to worry about it when all your money starts going to wedding things!

3. Assuming everyone else had the same thoughts about the wedding that I did

This was a difficult one with Ben and his family. Here’s the thing – I’m a girly girl. I hate using that phrase, but it’s the best I can do. I want pretty things, candles, romance, a beautiful dress and awesome venue. I want amazing photos and ALL THE THINGS. Guess what? Not all of that is feasible and, in fact, a lot of people (like your fiance …) might look at you like you have three heads when you tell him what you want that day.

For me, I learned how to be a bit more assertive and tell people what I wanted. If it wasn’t feasible, cool… but if it was, now they know. People can’t read your mind and this is not the time to be passive aggressive or just plain passive. Talk to the people in your wedding, parents, friends, etc. and let them know what you’re thinking. Don’t assume people know or assume that everyone thinks about weddings the way you do (Newsflash – I found out that they don’t.)


So those are my three quick tips that may help you in the wedding planning department. Had I been ready for these things, maybe I could’ve stressed just a litttttttle bit less!

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Honeymoon Plans!

Happy Monday, friends! Guess what … WE’RE MARRIED!

Okay, so truth be told, I’m pre-writing this blog BEFORE we got married, but if I have time this week, I’ll definitely put up an update blog! But, this week we’re headed to our honeymoon! In fact, we’ll be driving there later this morning.

If you’ve been following our story, the last year has been tough and we’ve been budgeting like crazy to get out of debt. We scaled back our wedding and, obviously, also scaled back the honeymoon. That doesn’t make us any less excited, though!

We’ll be heading to one of our favorite places – in the woods of Michigan at a friend’s cabin. You may remember us going there a couple of times!

Weekend Recap: Michigan GetawayWe’re planning to hop around some of the cute little towns in lower Michigan and just hang out at the cabin, taking walks and just having a slow week. There’ll be a little work (Ben’s coaching program is in full swing and I just like blogging/YouTube) thrown in there, but nothing too crazy!

We also haven’t been there yet when it’s been warm out, so we’re hoping to go down to the beach, eat on some patios and take lots of walks with Cora-boo. Just chilllll and get out of the city! Make sure to follow along on Instagram – I’m sure I’ll put a couple of things up.


What did you do for your honeymoon? Or, if you haven’t had one yet, what’s your dream honeymoon? I’m definitely hoping to go on a beach vacation sometime in the next year!

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Tomorrow is the Big Day! 👰🏼🤵🏼

Y’all… it’s finally here. Tomorrow Ben and I get married!

How to Create the Best Fall Engagement PhotosAfter the long, hard year we’ve had, I’m so happy tomorrow is almost here. Today I’m off to get my nails done with my friend Michelle, then we’re off to a boat cruise and dinner before heading out to the suburbs. Craziness!

Stay tuned over on Instagram if you’re nosey like me and want to see the wedding – I’m sure that’s the first place we’ll update. His instagram is @benfritzcoaching and mine, as usual, is @jessiedeschane.

I’ll probably still be online throughout our honeymoon because #iloveit, but won’t be doing much work. I’ve got some content scheduled and ready to go!

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Coffee Date – June 2019

Happy Monday, friends! Can you believe it’s June? I can’t believe that I get married in less than a week. Holy shit.

BUT today I wanted to take you through a quick coffee date and update you on things. I’ve been very wedding / work focused lately so sometimes I forget to update those of you that actually care about my life. 🙂 So, here we go – virtual coffee date!

Day in My Life: Content Creation Day!If we were getting coffee … I’d tell you I’m freaking out about getting married and so is Ben. Not in a “wow, we have a lot to do” freaking out (although that’s happening, too… ha!) but a “holy shit, this is the biggest commitment we’ve ever made and this is terrifying.”

Personally, I think that’s normal. We were both incredibly independent before we met (me even to a fault) and it’s been hard at times to mesh our lives together. Don’t get me wrong – we’re pumped to be married – just also a little scared, too.

If we were getting coffee … I’d tell you there’s been a little bit of up and down at my full-time job. Two of my team members left a couple months ago, we were merged with another team and I wouldn’t be surprised if a few others leave as well. I really like my job and coworkers, but it’s definitely stressful when things are super bumpy.

If we were getting coffee (at Starbucks)… I’d definitely order a grande iced coffee in a venti cup with no sweetener and room. Then I’d pull out my little almond milk creamer from my purse and slosh it in there myself. What can I say… it’s cheaper and I like it better than any of the milks at Starbs. I’d also tell you that having the Starbucks app is super dangerous.

If we were getting coffee … I’d tell you I’m still a little bummed we didn’t get the house we applied for in Arlington Heights. It was a two-bedroom, two bath home with a huge fenced in backyard near public transportation. I really loved the landlords and the house, but they had multiple offers and eventually went with someone that was willing to sign a three-year lease. BUT we’ll keep trucking along and hopefully find something soon! We don’t move until August 1, but I’d love to figure this all out as soon as we can if possible. Nice places go quickly, especially if they’re for a good price. (*Edit: Since writing this post, we’ve signed the lease for a house that we love JUST AS MUCH! Moving in on July 31!)

If we were having coffee … I’d tell you that I’ve been loving sharing my debt free journey on Fritz Fam TV. I’ve also been sharing quite a bit on Instagram. I’d probably ask you how you budget and what you do to stay debt free. It’s a huge goal of mine!

So, tell me in the comments – if we were having coffee, what would you want to chat about?

How Budgeting Has Changed My Life

Happy Friday, friends! What are you up to this weekend? We’ve got a trip to the suburbs tomorrow to clean out my car before the wedding and look at a couple apartments. Also gotta get in any last minute wedding things while we’re out there! I think Sunday will be pretty chill with just one podcast interview I’m trying to get in before the wedding.

But that’s not what today’s post is about! Instead I want to take you through how budgeting has been going for me and how it’s changed my life in so many positive ways.

How Budgeting Has Changed My LifeIt’s made me feel more abundant.

Now this was a surprising one to me. Here I am, cutting up my credit cards and telling myself that I can only spend within these certain limits. But for me, knowing where all of my money is going … idk – I love it! It makes me feel like a grown up and like I’m putting my money that I worked HARD for to good use. Plus, I hated not budgeting and always wondering where the hell all my money went at the end of the month. Now I can se how much I spend on things and where I need to cut back. Like, for example, I spend SO MUCH MONEY going out to eat and drinking coffee at coffee shops. This is something I love to do, so I’m not going to cut it out completely, but being aware of how much I spend is so important.

I’ve been able to find a really cool community of people.

Dude – the internet is MEAN. But the budgeting community? Supportive AF. Seriously… I only have 41 subscribers on our channel but everyone is so supportive. I’ve even had people start following me on Instagram that are super into budgeting and they’ve been so kind and uplifting. I’m loving it.

Ben and I will be in a better place to combine our money when we’re married.

Neither Ben nor I budgeted. He’s naturally more of a saver and I’m naturally more of a spender. This way we’re both on the same page and will be in a good place to combine finances when we decide to. We’ll probably combine in August of this year, just because we’ll be moving out of our current place and will need to switch around our budget anyway. Plus that give us a little over a month and a half after getting married to put together a budget we agree on (although, let’s be honest, I already created one LOL) and figure out how we want to be combine all the things.

It’s given me a plan to pay off debt.

Sometimes it’s scary to think about how much debt you have. Personally, I have just over $80k and Ben has just over $50k – mostly student loans. SEEING our loans in front of our face in our budget and how they’re slowly going down is super motivating. I love being able to see my debt go away, no matter how long it takes.


That’s it for now, although I can probably think of 100 other reasons that budgeting has helped us so much. Do you budget? 

Chronically Healing Podcast Ep. 24 – Chatting Beautycounter & Safer Products with Kelly Lamich

Chronically Healing Podcast Ep. 24 – Chatting Beautycounter & Safer Products with Kelly LamichI’m so excited for y’all to hear today’s episode! Today I have my OWN Beautycounter guru, Kelly Lamich, on the podcast! Kelly is works full-time in YouTube, social media and a successful Beautycounter business. I love Beautycounter, but Kelly is my “go-to gal” for all things safer beauty. She is an expert when it comes to safer products and Beautycounter specific products, so I hope you enjoy learning more about it!


Listen to the podcast:

Ep. 24 – Chatting Beautycounter & Safer Products with Kelly Lamich

I’m so excited for y’all to hear today’s episode! Today I have my OWN Beautycounter guru, Kelly Lamich, on the podcast! Kelly is works full-time in YouTube, social media and a successful Beautycounter business. I love Beautycounter, but Kelly is my “go-to gal” for all things safer beauty.

Subscribe to the Podcast on iTunes!


In today’s episode we chat about … 

  • Our favorite Beautycounter products
  • Why Kelly started paying close attention to the products she uses
  • Why Beautycounter is a safe brand
  • How Kelly thinks you should get started with non-toxic and safer products

Links and things …

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Simple Pumpkin Peanut Butter Dog Treats – No Bake!

Thank you to spartannash.com for kindly sponsoring this post. All opinions are 100% honest & completely my own.

Guys… did you know it was National Pet Month? HOW DID I NOT KNOW THIS?!

Well, Cora reminded me and with that, I wanted to make her some treats.

As y’all know, we’ve been working to live a cleaner, healthier lifestyle and Cora is included on that path. From filtered water to organic, no-filler foods, she’s been living that health dog life as well. So, I was pumped with SpartanNash reached out to me and sent me a few products that I could make Cora some healthy treats with. 😍

Simple Pumpkin Peanut Butter Dog Treats - No Bake!This recipe was adapted from Crayons & Collars, but I wanted to mess around with the recipe a bit for Cora. Here’s what I came up with – it took less then 15 minutes and Cora was in HEAVEN.

Ingredients:

  • 1/2 cup of peanut butter
  • 1 can of pure pumpkin
  • 1 tbsp honey
  • 1.5 cups of oats

**YIELDS A LOT OF TREATS!**

Simple Pumpkin Peanut Butter Dog Treats - No Bake!How to make them: 

It was quite simple! I threw all of the ingredients in a bowl and mixed them up. It took no time at all. I put some of the mixture into these cute dog bone molds and the rest I just made into balls!

For the balls it was all done and time to eat! In order for the bones to set, I put them in the freezer for 2 hours and then popped them out. You can store both the balls and bones in the refrigerator or the freezer.

Simple Pumpkin Peanut Butter Dog Treats - No Bake!And that was it – easy peasy! And Cora loved them, as you can see.

Simple Pumpkin Peanut Butter Dog Treats - No Bake!


For those of you living in Chicago and would like to grab your own products to make your pup some treats for National Pet Month, check out Family Fare or follow them @shopfamilyfare on Instagram or Facebook!

Have you ever made dog treats for your pup?  So easy – I don’t think we’ll ever buy treats again!

How I Use Lightroom to Edit My Instagram Photos

Hey friends and happy Friday! Who is ready for a long weekend? 🙋🏼‍♀️We don’t have anything planned besides going to see the Avengers movie and I’m PUMPED. Getting some last minute wedding planning done plus getting everything ready to go for the week of the wedding so we don’t have to do it then.

But today let’s chat about Instagram – my favorite platform! While the super curated theme is not what I’m going for, I still want to make sure my photos look as great as they can. And honestly – it takes me less than 2 minutes to mess with them to make them bright and vibrant.

The Simple Tool I Use to Edit My Instagram Photos
What app do I use? Just one – the free version of Lightroom!

Now, I’d love to get a preset someday, but for now… the free ones work just fine for me. Within Lightroom, here’s what I do:

The Simple Tool I Use to Edit My Instagram PhotosFirst, for every photo, I go into “Presets” and choose “Bright”

The Simple Tool I Use to Edit My Instagram PhotosThen, depending on the photo, I’ll go into “Detail” and “Sharpen” just a bit.

The Simple Tool I Use to Edit My Instagram PhotosFrom there, it’s off to “Effect” where I use “Clarity” for even more clear photos.

The Simple Tool I Use to Edit My Instagram PhotosI’ll usually head on over to “Color” and move up “Vibrance” as well.

And then sometimes I’ll play with the “Exposure” under “Light” depending on the photo.

I honestly just play around with those few things until the photo looks the way I like it.

The Simple Tool I Use to Edit My Instagram PhotosThat’s it! SOSOSO simple & a free way to have your iPhone (or any phone) photos look bright and clear!

What apps to do you use?

Chronically Healing Podcast Ep. 23 – Functional Lifestyle Coaching for Autoimmunity with Nicola Carpenter

Chronically Healing Podcast Ep. 23 – Functional Lifestyle Coaching for Autoimmunity with Nicola CarpenterToday on the Chronically Healing podcast I have my personal functional lifestyle coach, Nicola Carpenter! Nicola and I have been working together for about 6 months and she’s helped me make some MAJOR shifts in my health with Hashimoto’s. Today we’re chatting about her background with chronic illness and how it guided her into her career as a functional medicine lifestyle coach for those living with autoimmunity!


Listen to the podcast:

Ep. 23 – Functional Lifestyle Coaching for Autoimmunity with Nicola Carpenter

Today on the Chronically Healing podcast I have my personal functional lifestyle coach, Nicola Carpenter! Nicola and I have been working together for about 6 months and she’s helped me make some MAJOR shifts in my health with Hashimoto’s.

Subscribe to the Podcast on iTunes!


In today’s episode we chat about … 

  • Nicola’s past with living with Hashimoto’s and endometriosis
  • How her frustration with doctors pushed her into becoming a functional medicine lifestyle coach
  • Why she believes self-love is the most important part of anyone’s health journey
  • How she practices self love and lifestyle coaching
  • How she coaches me!

Links and things …

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Last Minute Wedding Planning!

Happy Monday, friends! Hope y’all had a wonderful weekend. I definitely did. I went to see My Favorite Murder’s live podcast in Milwaukee with my friend and we had the BEST TIME. Saturday was pretty chill, but then Sunday we were back in the suburbs for Ben’s bachelor party and my dress fitting. Busy, but fun weekend! Going into a super busy week this week so here we go!

But, today’s post isn’t about how busy the week is going to be – it’s all about last minute wedding things! We’re less than three weeks out people!

Last Minute Wedding Planning!
We’ve got quite a bit done:

  • Venue set-up ✔️
  • Bouquets ordered (thanks to my bridesmaids) ✔️
  • Flowers/greenery/food/all the things ✔️
  • Bridal party gifts bought ✔️
  • Hair trial ✔️
  • Jewelry & hair piece bought/borrowed ✔️
  • Everyone RSVP’ed ✔️
  • Food/Starbucks order for getting ready ✔️
  • Schedule sent & synced up with photographer ✔️

Almost done:

  • Dress fitting
  • Put together bridal party gifts/final touches
  • Spray tan (appt made)
  • Nails (appt made)
  • Honeymoon “things to do”

Still to do:

  • Make eyebrow wax appt
  • Projects for decor (my team at work is helping me thankfully!) – need to order!
  • Marriage license (Wednesday this week!)
  • Pick out songs for wedding and talk to DJ

Honestly, I am sure I’m missing 1 million things, but that’s what’s on the top of my head right now!

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