Good morning, friends! How’s the weather by you? I ask because there were thunderstorms all night here with crazy wind and it’s still raining today. Apparently it might snow later, though … oh Wisconsin. Moving on!
So judging by the title, I’m going to talk a little bit about trying to stay positive in a negative situation. First and foremost, I’d like to admit that I am NOT a naturally positive person
(especially before 9 a.m.) but I’ve worked really hard the past few years to choose positivity over negativity. I’m a personality that is affected very easily by other people’s emotions – which is sometimes great and sometimes not so great. I still struggle with this every.single.day so some of the things I’m doing are:
// First thing in the morning, remind yourself that you’re going to have a good day
I do this every morning, especially when I want to throw my phone through the window when it goes off at 5:15 a.m. As I’m driving to the gym, I make sure to say to myself “this is going to be a great day” and think about the things I’m looking forward to, even if the only thing I’m looking forward to is sitting on the couch after work.
// Listen to music
For me, I crank up the music on my way to the gym, at the gym or even at work. Music can distract you so your mind isn’t falling into negative thoughts.
This is one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. While I hate getting up so early, I feel so awesome once I’ve worked out. Plus, working out has helped me lose weight and gain muscle which makes me feel better about myself –> Hello, positivity. For me, working out in the morning is the best because it sets the tone for the rest of the day.
// Smile (fake it until you make it!)
I’ve heard so many times that if you just smile, you’ll feel so much better and it’s true! It kind of goes along with my “fake it until you make it” mentality. For example, yesterday someone was making me feel really bad for who knows what and I just laughed about it. Inside I was not feeling so great about it (I mean, who likes being treated like crap?) but I just laughed about it when this person would do something rude. Because honestly, it was ridiculous so it was funny. This works in situations where you just wake up on the wrong side of the bed, too. Smile a bit, smile at strangers, smile at dogs (OMG I LOVE DOGS) –> I bet after a little while you’ll feel a bit better.
// Surround yourself with positive people – in real life or online
Okay, so this may seem weird (at least the latter part of the sentence) but it’s true. When I’m able to be around my friends, I feel SOOOO great, but unfortuantely my closest friends all live far away (T-MINUS 35 DAYS UNTIL HAWAII). My sister just moved in with me which will help, but when I was living alone, sometimes I used social media as a way to make myself feel better. I watch a lot of YouTube videos as you know and everyone that I watch puts out positive vibes on their videos. Or I’d skype a friend or look at funny pictures on the internet. If you can’t physically surround yourself with positive people maybe try using social media to help. BUT on the flip side of that, don’t get too obsessed with it because that’s a whole other can of worms to deal with.
// Put on your “hot-damn” outfit
This is something my last boss used to tell me all the time. If she came into work in a neon shirt or bright shoes, it usually meant that she was having a rough day. Funny, right? But it’s true! I always feel so much better and more confident when I’m wearing something I feel good in. Probably a big reason I wear so many dresses … but then again I feel pretty awesome in my workout clothes, too. 🙂
// Distance yourself from unhealthy/negative relationships
I have a love/hate relationship with this one. What if you physically CAN’T distance yourself – for example a family member, coworker, etc. Sure, if the local Starbucks barista has a stick up ……. you can just go to another coffee shop. If you have a nasty boyfriend, you can dump him. Negative friend? End the friendship. But you can’t exactly end a relationship with a family member or just NOT go to work because your coworker is a crazy person.
In this instance (this personally is where I struggle the most) I’ve been working on a few things. First, I still distance myself from these people as much as possible. At work, stay professional and polite, but don’t play into the games. If it’s a supervisor or coworker, make sure you let higher management know you’re struggling. Try not to play into the drama to make them like you because it just doesn’t work – trust me. I was struggling so much last October/November because every single day I couldn’t stand coming into work because I didn’t know which personality I was going to be dealing with. At this point, I’ve done all I can. I’ve told management multiple times, stayed out of the drama and tried not to let someone else’s attitude affect mine. This might sound catty, but I remind myself that I don’t WANT to be like the person I’m struggling with, so I shouldn’t let their negativity leak into my life and make it suck. Does that makes sense?
Obviously a lot of these are obvious things to do, but sometimes we forget. There’s some situations where some of these don’t work, but in the end I just try to not think about the negative person/situation and move on. I remind myself of the great things in my life and try to focus on that. And if all else fails, I look at this gif.
What are some things that you do in negative situations?