Five Things I’m Loving on Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day, friends! Now, I’ve never been one for celebrating a random day in February with or without a boyfriend, BUT I am all about love. So with that, here are five things I’m loving.

5 Things I'm Loving on Valentine's Day

Just Jessie 
Did you know I’ve officially been blogging on here for five years? Crazy! I had a small food + weight loss blog before I started Just Jessie, but I’m so happy I switched over to this one.

I’ve made so many fun connections with new friends and brands in the past five years and I can’t wait to ramp things up this year with making my brand into a business. I’ve decided to finally put my passion and talents to use by providing my own content creation and social media management service. I’m so ready to work hard toward the life that I want!

Chicago
I lovvvvve this city. I love being able to walk to things or get to places easily (I still need to figure out the trains …) I love the energy of the city and how empowered I feel all the time. I mentioned this in my post back in October when I had my solo trip to Chicago, but this city gives me a sense of excitement and the push to go after everything that I want. I still can’t believe I live here and I’m doing it. I’M DOING IT, GUYS!

Warmer Weather
The weather has been sneakily warming up. Granted, it’ll be 50 one day, then 27 the next BUT IT’S STARTING. Everyone keeps telling me that Chicago is amazing in the summer, and I’m ready to see what that’s all about. Plus, dresses without tights?! I do need to do some spring/summer clothing shopping and shoes shopping, but I’m going to wait until I’ve hit a few goals with my fitness journey.

Friends
New and old, I love that I’m able to be around fun people more often. I’ve hung out with more people since I’ve moved to Chicago than I did the entire 2.5 years I lived in De Pere. I’m joking, only sort of. I’m pretty sure it’s close!

Ben
I mean, I can’t do a Valentine’s Day post and NOT mention him, can I? 🙂

After being single for over four years, having someone in my life has been a challenge, but a good one. He’s smart, kind, loving, funny and I didn’t know someone like him even existed. But he does and I’m not sharing. 😛

Plus, he feeds me cake and donuts, but also pushes me in the gym. Best case scenario in my opinion.

What are you loving right now?
Are you doing anything for Valentine’s Day or Galentine’s Day or Single’s Awareness Day OR JUST FEBRUARY 14?

Weekend Recap: A Sleepy NYE in Chicago

Happy New Year, friends! I hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend and rang in the New Year in whatever style works for you.

Ben and I got home from our road trip (recaps of that coming the rest of this week!) late on Friday night, so we slept in a bit on Saturday which was AMAZING. Once we finally got up, we headed out to the suburbs to pick up Ben’s car from his parents’ house and then headed back into the city where we didn’t move from the couch the rest of the day. SO lazy.

After some Thai takeout (yum), we got ready to head out to Ben’s cousin’s place for a fun night of hanging out with lots of fun people. We had a couple of drinks, stuck around for the NYE countdown at midnight and then headed up to the rooftop of the building. Got a picture with my man … 🙂

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And then we headed back to Ben’s place to go to bed because we’re old and tired.

Now it’s Sunday and I’m currently sitting at Starbucks with Ben, writing this post while he gets some work done. My gym job and social media job are officially done (woo!) so I’m just focusing on the last few days of work this week at the college and then back to Chicago next weekend except PERMANENTLY. I’ll head back to Green Bay later this evening and then I’ll be figuring stuff out this week. I can’t believe 2017 is here – time for some BIG changes, friends!

I’ll have 3-4 posts about my road trip with Ben coming up this week as well as a requested story of how Ben and I met (thanks, Liz!) soon, too. I’ll also keep you all updated on the move and all the craziness (good and bad!) that come with it. I’m so excited to get back into blogging and vlogging – the things I’m passionate about have taken the backseat the past few months due to so much craziness with my three jobs. I hope you’ll stick around for the ride. 🙂

How was your NYE? Did you do anything fun or were you pretty low-key?  

Linking up with Katie!

New Hair & Wedding Dress HELP

Happy Tuesday, everyone! Tuesdays are always the hardest day of the week for me, for some reason. Usually I’m running on pure adrenaline on Mondays, but by Tuesday, I have to physically push myself out of bed. But I’m here!

Anyways, I got in a spur of the moment hair cut / color last night and … it took 3.5 hours. My hair just pulls yellow like nobody’s business! So a million years of toning later …

Before and After

It’s horrible lighting, but basically it’s a lot darker, with less warmth and more cool blonde. The bottoms are pretty much gray right now, but that’ll wash out and be an ashy blonde. I like it, but it always takes me a little bit to get used to change to my hair – I’m very particular about it!  But most of all, it needed to be cut SO badly – the split ends were out of this world!

Moving on from that, I wrote about my weekend yesterday, but as always, gotta plug the YouTube video. It’s short (what, me do a short video?!) and is just my day on Saturday for Homecoming if you’re interested in watching!

Okay, last but certainly not least … I NEED HELP. I have two dresses (albiet they’re basically the same damn dress …) that I need to choose between for a wedding next month. Normally, I would not care, but for the first time in about, oh, I don’t know … eleventy billion years, I’m actually going to have a date to a wedding (#shocker) so yo girl needs to look spiffy. Which do you prefer?

Dress - which to choose!

And last but CERTAINLY not least, it’s my BESTEST LOVE’S 30th birthday today! <3 Love you, Amy!

Amy's birthday

What is your least favorite day of the week? Favorite day?

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Let’s have coffee

I love these types of posts. Whether it’s coffee, tea, diet code red mountain dew (my teeth are going to rot off, I swear) … I love getting coffee with a friend and catching up. Since I don’t have many in-person coffee dates planned, let’s have one together!

Coffee Date

If we were having coffee …

I’d tell you about the awesome, life-changing and uplifting trip I had to Chicago last week. Do any of you ever just “click” with someone, something, some place? That’s how I felt with Chicago. I’ve always liked it there, but this last time just solidified things for me. Even a few of you who watched my video noticed how happy I was, which is crazy to me that you can see that!

I’d ask you a million and one questions, because that’s what I do. I love hearing about things happening in my friends lives, whether it’s how passionate they are about their work, a new person joining their family, a funny date story … I love it. So how about you tell me something about you in the comments? I’d love to hear it. 🙂

I’d probably spill some of my drink on myself, let’s be real.

I’d tell you about a huge weight being lifted off my shoulders. After over a year of being denied by loan refinancing companies, one finally refinanced my loan based on my credit score instead of solely based on my very low salary. So, my payments were supposed to go up to $867 in January (per month) … and the loan refinancing company cut that in half. It’s a HUGE weight off my shoulders and a little more manageable. Seriously, check out SoFi if you’re struggling with student loans (or any type of personal debt).

You’d probably ask me about my dating life because, well … that’s what people ask single people. It’s okay, though. I’m used to it. I’d tell you I’m not actively seeking anyone, not online dating, none of that. I’d tell you that I’ve given up on the dating scene where I live a long time ago because I have no intention of staying in the area forever, which obviously hinders my dating life. Now, if you prod a little bit more, I’d probably tell you about someone that currently has my “attention”, so to speak, but I’m nervous about it. Girl has been burned quite a few times, so I am apprehensive. But you would be able to see past the nervousness and see that I’m more excited than nervous. We’ll see what happens. 🙂 (<— I’m THE BEST at being vague enough that ya’ll will hate me)

I’d ask you your opinion on what to wear for a wedding next month because girl is BAD at making decisions.

I’d ask you about your favorite hair stylist … hair is a big deal for me and I haven’t had mine done in almost a year. Whoops …

I’d tell you about how crazy my November is going to be for work – just the full-time job. I have five events next month, but four of them require overnight travel. Nov. 3: Madison, Nov. 10: Minneapolis (overnight), Nov. 15-18: Chicago (multiple overnights). I’d tell you that I’m excited about it, because getting out of the office and being at my events is the best feeling. Although, you would probably be able to tell that I’m hopeful for new opportunities soon.

I’d tell you that we need to have coffee more often because I miss being with like-minded, fun, energetic, driven people. So, I’d basically beg you to be my friend all the time. 😉

Linking up with Amanda!

I asked you above, but if we were getting coffee, what would you want to talk about? What would you ask me? What kind of drink would you get?

10 Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

I have a lot of experience on this topic of singledom and after going stag to yet another wedding this past weekend, I figured it was time I named off 10 of the things I’m TOTALLY over hearing since I’ve been single. (Note: I’m not being mean and I’ve probably said all of these things myself to someone, but I’ve heard these things about 10,000 times in the past three years.)

Are you seeing anyone?

I’m seeing you, being all judgmental and asking me AGAIN if I’m seeing someone. Don’t you think I would’ve TOLD YOU THAT?!

He’ll come when you’re not looking

First, and most importantly … that’s what she said. #tyss
Okay. Seriously? I’m not sitting on the side of the street with a sign that says “WILL YOU BE MY BOYFRIEND??!!” I’m not going to the grocery store and attacking every male I see. This comment drives me nuts. YES, I get what people actually mean by it, but I haven’t been “looking” for someone, so knock it off.

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

Have you tried online dating?

Yes, I have. Have you seen my video about my creepy dates? Now you’ll see why I’m no longer doing online dating. (P.S. ignore the quality, I need to re-do this video)

Have you met my friend/coworker/trainer/brother’s friend’s neighbor’s dog walker?

No, I haven’t. And I no longer trust your judgement after you tried to set me up with the waiter at the last three restaurants I’ve been to with you, so you can just stop trying to help now.

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

So … you’ve at least been getting laid, right?

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Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

Don’t you want kids? You’re almost 30!

I want a dog. Do I have to get a boyfriend to have a dog? Didn’t think so. Also, I AM NOT ALMOST 30 SO SHUT YOUR DIRTY MOUTH. No offense to my 30s crew! 🙂

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

You’re so lucky to have this time to work on you.

I don’t need anymore work, thank you very much. Wait, why do you think there’s something I need to work on? What’s wrong with me now?!

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

Ugh, this must be so hard for you.

Girl, I’m single, not dying of an incurable disease.

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

Everything happens for a reason. 

I mean, I believe this one for most things in life but I’m soooooooooooo sick of hearing it. Yes, I know. now.please.stop.saying.it.to.me.

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

I can’t believe you’re still single, you’re so awesome and beautiful and wonderful!

I tell myself this one all the time, so I don’t mind this one. #ProbablyWhyI’mSingle

Things Single Girls Hate Hearing

Do you have any to add?

Linking up with Amanda!!

Being single is hard

Okay. Here we go. It’s rant time, I apologize.

Being single is hard

^^ This. This is something I’m okay with about 95% of the time. I’m okay with being alone. I’m okay with not being in an unhappy relationship anymore. I’m okay with not letting guys treat me like crap. I’m all good with that. I like who I am, I like (for the most part) what I’ve done with my life. I like my goals, my aspirations, my dreams. I’m more worried about when I can get a dog than when I can have babies. In fact, I don’t even think I want babies (that’s a rant for another day). I’m not afraid of living by myself. I have no issues going to movies or getting food by myself. But you know what? Being single is still hard.

It’s still a sting to your confidence when a guy you liked for months but “wasn’t ready to date” suddenly has a girlfriend. Or when your ex of millions of light-years ago is engaged to the crazy chick you always knew in the back of your mind was interested in him. Or when the guy you’re not even interested in gives up on you and moves on … How does that one make sense?

Single

I’ve been the girl that’s told other people that “it’ll come when it’s right” or “at least you’re not in an unhappy relationship” or “you have to like yourself first”. And I believe ALL those things. But being single is still hard when you don’t want to be single anymore.

Now, take that with a grain of salt. One thing I’m really good at is dealing with hard situations (#TWSS). As much as it gets me down sometimes and I feel really lonely (which is actually more of a job/friend/location issue than guys), I’m still gettin’ along. I’m happy by myself. I’m happy with who I am. I mean, I wish I made a bit more money so I could wear prettier clothes (let’s be honest), but I know who I am and what I want. And honestly? I think that’s why I’m still single. I’ve had multiple opportunities to be UNsingle in the past three years, but I strayed away from them because 1) I wasn’t ready yet or 2) I just didn’t “feel it”. So really, it’s my own fault. But I’d rather be single than with someone I’m not 100% into.

Single

So anyways, this little rant is just all over the place but I was having a rough morning after seeing a fun picture on the FaceSpace (seriously, I should just delete certain people). But let’s be real – there’s no use in feeling bad today because I can still do this …

Single

So maybe I should stay single anyway. 🙂

Thanks for listening (are you really listening? reading? laughing at me?) to my little cranky funk this morning! Let me know if you’ve ever struggled with this stuff! Even you beauties that aren’t single, I’m sure you have some advice … but I swear if one more person tells me “everything happens for a reason” … >:( (just kidding)

Linking up with Amanda!

Thinking Out Loud: Dating

You know, whoever told me a little less than three years ago that I was going to have SO MUCH FUN dating now that I was finally single, I’d like to laugh in their face for a second.

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It’s no secret that I’ve dabbled in online dating on and off for the past few years (I’ve even written about it … twice) but I hate it so I don’t know why I keep going back. Like I actually hate it. I’ve never been excited for a first date (I’m being serious – never) with a guy I’ve met online. Part of that is because I’ve never really met anyone that’s been exciting to me. It’s just usually, “Well, maybe I’ll like him more in person” and then I don’t. Plus, it gives me anxiety like none other to go on a date with someone I’ve never met before and have no background on. There’s so many crazies out there!

Unfortunately meeting people the “normal” way hasn’t exactly worked out for me either. I’ve met a couple guys here and there through work or friends, but they’ve all fizzled out. Lately I’ve been trying to forget about the guy I’ve had a crush on for way too long and just giving up on dating all together. I know I’m being cynical and someday I’ll look back at this post and be like “I’m such an idiot! I just met the coolest guy that proves that they’re all not the same!”, but until then … I’m done now. Kthanksybe. But wouldn’t you be done with messages like these?

Twitter

What about this one?

Dating 1

Not bad enough? How about this one?

Dating 2

Or my newest favorite, the guy that’s old enough to be my dad but disgusting enough to get reported.

Dating 3

I think online dating is actually making me want to stay single. It just seems that 95% of them fit the stereotypical gross, after one thing and just plain disrespectful type guy. I know this isn’t true. In fact my last (real) boyfriend (three years ago) was a really good guy – just not for me. But dang! After only having jerks for almost three years, it definitely makes you cynical. I just seem to attract the poopheads lately. Probably because I use words like poopheads.

So, I’m just going to go back to my fun little life of trying to make cute singers fall in love with me from afar (; I definitely want to be in a relationship again someday, but I’m cool bein’ single if these are my only options. Maybe I should just get a dog. <— That’s the best idea I’ve had all day.

What’s your feedback on this? Am I being too cynical? 

Linking up with the wonderful Amanda. (:

My favorite …

I have a pretty crazy day today, so when I read this post on Courtney’s blog this morning, I thought this would be a perfect, fun way to get in my blog for the day. I love surveys! Probably the only reason I miss MySpace. Also linking up with Amanda for a Thinking Out Loud!

My Favorite:

… Songs that amp me up for a workout …
Honey I’m Good pretty much amps me up for anything, but I’m also a big fan of VaVa Voom by Bassnectar when I really need to get myself pumped.

… Way to eat eggs …
I’m not a huge egg lover, mostly because I’m lazy, but I do love a good egg sandwich with an over-easy egg, turkey bacon and avocado on a muffin. YUM.

… Podcast …
I’m not really a podcast person. I will say I’ve listened to Danny Duncan’s podcast a few times and it’s pretty fun.

… Kind of date …
Date? What’s a date? Kidding. 🙂

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In all seriousness, I like all the frills of the typical going to dinner or a movie sometimes, but I think my favorite are low key “let’s watch a movie on the couch together” type date. Or I’m happy getting a drink on a patio somewhere and just chatting/laughing. I am pretty easy to please, haha.

… App …
Instagram, though I’ve really been into SnapChat lately for some weird reason.

… Item in my closet …
Hmmmm, to be honest, I’m not a huge lover of my clothes lately but I’m cheap. So probably one of my new maxi dresses I got from Target last month or my (fake) leather jacket.

Look! Everything I mentioned is in the photos! That worked out.

… Gifts to give and receive …
To give: I lovvvvve giving gifts. I’m super observant (I’m not tooting my own horn, just sayin’) so you may say something you enjoy or want and I’ll remember and get it for you sometime. I love doing that. I remember my ex boyfriend talking about how much he wished he had better music for his long car ride, so I got him Sirius radio for a year. Or I’ll search around until I find something someone will love. It’s one of my favorite
To get: Obviously I like it when people do the same I do and really put some thought into what I might like. But really, I’m totally a flower girl. Yes, I know they die. But you get me flowers for a reason (or no reason at all) and you’re probably going to be my favorite person.

… Pizza topping …
I’m pretty boring when it comes to pizza. Gimme pepperoni and mushrooms and I’m golden. Then again, I’d probably just rather skip the pizza and have the breadsticks.

What about you guys? What’s your favorite type of date?