Happy Friday! What a fun time to talk about goals. I’m working from home today hoping that I’d be able to get a bunch more work done BUT work people won’t leave me alone 🙃 so here it is, almost noon and I still haven’t started on the project I wanted to finish today.
Anyway, I wanted to take a quick break to let y’all know that my 2018 Goals video is up on my channel! If you aren’t subscribed already, I’d love if you subscribed! Basically YouTube decided that small channels can no longer monetize, so unless I get like 800 subscribers in the next month, they’re gonna take that away for awhile. 🙁 But even if you don’t subscribe, I’d love you watched my newest video!
Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Let me know some of your goals in the comments below!
I love using the phrase “bits and bobs” – I blame it on watching a LOT of British YouTubers. 😍
If you saw last week’s post, I kind of filled you in on most of the stuff we finished. I didn’t get as much done this week because we’re kind of on a stand still until we get some $$ info figured out.
What we’ve done so far:
Bought a few inexpensive chalkboards and a pen holder from the Target dollar section + a plastic container to hold it all (I’m assuming I’ll be picking up a few “bits and bobs” here in the next year and a half.
Paid for engagement party room rental ($100)
We made the decision that we will probablynot be getting a wedding planner. 😩 While I’d love one, I have a background in events and I don’t really *need* it. And, quite honestly, The $2000+ on a wedding planner could be used on my dress or multiple other things. I may still hire one of my previous interns to do day of planning for me, just to take some of the stress off. If I had less experience, I would hands down hire one, but since one of my dreams is to plan weddings, why not start with my own?!
Gotten TONS of recommendations and ideas from friends who are willing to borrow me things and/or gave ideas on ways we could cut costs
Had a crying fit because I felt like Ben didn’t want to get married because he’s freaked out about $$ (lollll #happyengagement we’re good now)
Bought “things” off Etsy for my bridesmaid boxes. Two girls’ boxes are themed one way, the other three are themed another based on their interests. I CAN’T WAIT TO DO THESE!!
Started adding $$ to savings account for wedding budget
Applied for credit card that we’ll pay for wedding expenses with (DON’T WORRY – we’ll be paying it off every month. Just want everything to be in one place.) It’s a pretty specialty card, though, so I still don’t know if I was accepted. 🤔
Looked through Costco to see what we could purchase there for the engagement party
Tried to figure out wedding colors. I’m leaning toward gold, green, white and maybe a pop of purple. Still haven’t decided if the bridesmaid dresses will be purple, though. That’s a lot of color for me!
Asked our AMAZING friend Frank to get ordained and be our officiant!
Made Facebook event + invited everyone to our engagement party
What’s next on our agenda:
Get coffee with Amanda + check out the engagement party room this Saturday (we’re using the party room in her high rise – thanks, friend!)
Book the ceremony/reception venue + set the date
Find an engagement party dress
Find engagement party decoration (will know more after Saturday coffee with Amanda) though I did get a “Yay” ballon 🤗
Anything you’d like to see more of during this journey? Do you like knowing the money side of things? Once I start getting into the thick of things, I’m hoping to do videos + more photos. We’re just in beginning stages.
Good morning and happy Monday! I’m currently at work, though a lot of Chicago is off today for MLK Day. It currently looks like a snow globe outside and I’m not mad about it (except when I’m trying to walk in it … then I am!) Did you get today off?
Friday was a pretty slow day at work, but I finished writing up my first draft of my 2018 strategy and then did some work throughout the day. I was ready to leave by the end of the day, though! Definitely was feeling a little anti-social and just wanted to go home. Once home, we ate dinner and watched a little Netflix, before heading out to the ‘burbs to go to Ben’s hockey game. I did not want to go (the game was at 9:15, so we didn’t get home until after 11) but it was nice to chat with his dad and have some talking time with Ben. I talked his ear off about wedding colors. 🙃 But seriously, which color do you like?(Gold Sparkle or Eggplant?)
I slept for almost 10 hours on Friday night 🎉 so I woke up feeling amazing around 9:30. Ben was at work, so Cora and I spent the morning slowwwwwly waking up, watching HGTV and drinking some coffee. I left for Ben’s gym around noon to get in a workout with him.
After our workout, we spent the rest of the afternoon just hanging out and getting things done around the couch. My work holiday party was Saturday night, so we left around 7 pm and stayed until about 9:30 pm. It was a fun night, though I was so exhausted (somehow…) and just didn’t want to be out. #old I also have no pics from the night because I forgot my phone at home – that’s the first time I’ve done that!
Sunday ended up being our most productive and best day of the weekend – at least to me! We got up *pretty* early (I had horrible nightmares the night before, so I was very tired) and got some stuff done around the house. We headed out to Costco at 10 to get a membership and go shopping for the first time! We didn’t do as much damage as I thought I would, but we did pick up a good chunk of stuff… took two hours, though!
Once home, Ben put together a little ottoman/storage unit thing we got at Costco for $25 (we need more seating/storage in our living area) and then set up a desk we ordered on Amazon. We don’t have a ton of space in our place and since I work from home occasionally and want to make that more of a regular thing, we decided we needed to make our closet (aka spare room) a makeshift office as well.
Ben finished the desk and then we headed out to Target quick to get a chair that Ben really liked (and a pillow for the chair that I really liked) plus a little tote to hold all of our wedding things we pick up here and there. Then I spent the rest of the evening setting up my little office, which I love! (sorry the pics are slightly crooked – our apartment is seriously at a huge slant …)
We did end up watching the last episode of Ozark before reading a little bit and then going to bed. I end up getting kinda gloomy around 7 pm on Sundays because I’m sad to go to work the next day. I really can’t wait until the end of this month when I can fully unplug from work for my birthday in Florida! Two more weeks. 🙂
Sad title, right? It was mostly because of budget (#weddingbudget), but quite honestly, I’ve been not feeling my last few fixes. So for now, I set it to only renew every quarter, but I’ll check in closer to that time to see if I’m still interested in going forward at all. Boo! I loved my first box, but not much after …
I did not like this piece. I pulled it out and thought it was pretty, but it’s SO frumpy. Maybe on someone with a bit bigger frame or longer torso? Plus, you could see through the little designs in the front. Not worth $64 in my opinion. Sent back!
Piece 2: Emory Park – Dulce Knit Top (small), $28
This top is not really my style. It was very soft and looked okay on, but quite honestly, I didn’t love it. However, since I pay $25 for my box in styling fee that I won’t get back if I don’t buy anything, I bought this and paid the few extra bucks just to have something. I think I’ve worn it once since then (this was from like, early December) and it’s soft… but meh. Kept.
Piece 3: Coin 1804 – Mely Single Cold Shoulder Knit Top (small), $58
I really liked the shoulder detail on the top, but it was a little frumpy. I know a lot of sweaters are frumpy, but it just wasn’t hitting me in the best way. While I liked it, I wasn’t going to pay almost $60 for it, especially since I didn’t think quality was top-notch. Sent back!
This dress was pretty, but it was not flattering. I am sucking in like a MOFO in this pic. Plus, I don’t really have anything to wear it to. I asked for a fun, flirty dress to wear on my 30th birthday in Florida … and this is what they sent me. Not what I was thinking at all. If I was still putting on events, I might’ve bought it for work but otherwise, not really what I was looking for. That’s a no for me.
Piece 5: Liverpool – Carolyn Legging (6P), $78
These were literally just plain black leggings that were more structured. I’ve asked about three times now in my fix returns that I don’t like structured leggings (aka the ones that look like black jeans) and I’d be much happier with regular leggings similar to Athleta or Lulu. I’d rather spend $78 at one of those stores.
If you can’t tell, I’m pretty frustrated with Stitch Fix. For as much as these items are and the amount of feedback I give, I’m disappointed that they literally keep giving me what I ask them NOT to (aka structured leggings) and not giving me what I ask for (AKA a fun, flirty dress for FLORIDA …) I needed to cut them out of the budget anyway, so this just kinda solidified that decision.
Today starts the first of many (AKA 1.5 years worth) of wedding update blogs. There might not be one every single week, and then other weeks there might be a lot. I thought I was getting WAY ahead of myself for already planning stuff, but once I noticed the venue we love is already booked up for Saturdays in May and June in 2019, I’m glad I got started!
What we’ve done so far:
Stared at my ring a lot
Went to a few venues and have *pretty much* decided on this one
Decided we’re going to get married on a Sunday to save costs
Interviewed a BAZILLION wedding planners and decided that’s my next career venture
Interviewed a couple of photographers, but I’m pretty set on Ariele (who reached out via Instagram!)
Started saving for the wedding
Reached out to the required caterers and beverage providers for the venue we love
How have y’all been? I’m sorry my blogging has been a bit all over the place lately, but things are about to change! In the meantime, back to a quick weekend recap since it seems to still be a popular read!
Friday was pretty low-key. I had a really hard time readjusting to work last week (even though I LITERALLY was in the office for two days) so I was absolutely wiped by the end of the day. I took the train home and immediately hopped on the couch. Quite honestly I’m pretty sure I didn’t move from there the whole night and Ben and I watched a few episodes of the Ozarks. He’s trying to get me into watching tv series on Netflix, but I’m just not a tv girl!
Saturday I woke up with Ben, but definitely later than normal, before he went to work. Once he left, I got a few things done around the house with my little helper (AKA Cora) and got ready to grab lunch with my friend Amanda.
We went to a place called True Food Kitchen and I got a Gluten Free Spicy Curry. It was really good and loved the vibe, but HOLY OVERPRICED. Still really enjoyed the food, I just wish it wasn’t $20 for this small curry with just a couple shrimp… seems a bit much!
After lunch, we walked to Trader Joe’s so I could pick up some green dragon sauce that Ben and I have been out of for like, three months (blasphemy!), grabbed a quick coffee at Starbucks and headed to her apartment to chat. I left a little later to go meet up with Ben at the gym.
We were going to workout, but both of us weren’t feeling 100% and Cora had been in her kennel for awhile + we had a goal setting meeting set up. We hurried over to this cool little coffee place called Drop Shot Coffee and pushed out our personal and relationship goals for the year. This was Ben’s idea and I loved it. It’s nice to do personal goals obviously, but since we’re saving for a wedding and have goals as a family, it was so nice to sit down and decide what things are important to us this year.
Once we got home we cuddled up with Cora and spent the rest of the night just doing random things around the house before watching some more Netflix.
I had been looking forward to Sunday all week! I went and met up with my BFF Saige at a coffee shop called Sawada Coffee (lots of new coffee shops this weekend!) before we headed out to meet Ben and her husband Joel at Duck Duck Goat for Dim Sum.
I unfortunately couldn’t eat most of the food #glutenfree but our server was amazing and helped me work through their GF menu to find something delicious. I ended up getting vegetable fried rice with shrimp and glass noodles – both were amazing and actually everyone else’s favorite dishes, even though they were the GF dishes!
After lunch we all split up and Ben and I headed home to Cora. I spent the rest of the day making a budget for the wedding and reaching out to the caterer and beverage people we’d like to work with. CAN WE PLEASE TALK ABOUT THE VENUE I’M LIKE, 100% SURE I’M GETTING.
I also spent some time trying to get a few dates / find locations for our engagement party / my 30th birthday party for February. Ben got a bunch of work done and Cora … well, she just tried to lay in one of our laps at all times. 🤗
That was my weekend! I woke up today SO TIRED, but ended up having some time to workout in the gym at work around 10 am which helped a little with endorphins but HOLY CRAP I’m starving. Trying to push off lunch as long as I can since I won’t be eating dinner until almost 7 pm. Maybe I’ll run to Target and grab a can of tuna HAHA.
Hi friends! Anyone else feel like the holidays literally turn them upside down and back around? Seriously, I keep forgetting today is Tuesday and I did NOT want to go to work today, especially with a -21 windchill. Thankfully I was able to finagle my way into two more days of work from home so I’m sitting on my couch in thermal pj pants and a huge blanket. Best way to come back to work, in my opinion!
Friday, December 29
Friday ended up being an incredibly relaxing day. I was supposed to get lunch with a friend, but she texted me that she was sick so all I had planned was a few phone calls with wedding planners. I ended up having three phone convos (really loved two of the girls!) but Ben and I are going to take a little breather on hiring vendors just yet and focus on the venue. Ben feels a bit rushed by me (oopsie) and wants to sit down and really hammer out our budget and what’s important to us. I think that’s a great idea, plus I do still have a few more wedding planner interviews over the next couple of weeks so at least I’ll have all the info!
Ben got home from work around 1 and I’m pretty sure the rest of the day was spent cuddling with Cora and watching Netflix. We really got into the show Mindhunter (which we finished this weekend!) and I highly recommend it!
Saturday, December 30
I woke up pretty early with Ben on Saturday because I was going to go work on wedding planning stuff plus my blog at a coffee shop while he was at work. I was planning to workout with him and since the temps have been so cold, there was NO way I was going to walk there so I figured I’d hang out at a coffee shop for two hours right by his gym. Unfortunately we woke up to a very goopy-eyed puppy and I had to take her out to the ‘burbs to check on her eye. 2 hours later + $155 appointment/meds/heartguard + $30 in gas, I got home. HA!
I had picked up Qdoba while out in the ‘burbs, so I ate that while waiting for Ben to come home. I started cooking a little bit and all of a sudden got SUPER nauseous and felt really sick so I ended up laying on the couch for the rest of the afternoon.
Ben’s friends came over later that night (thankfully I was feeling better at that point) and we hung out with them and their 4-month old baby for a few hours.
Sunday, December 31
The day started out pretty slow before I got into cooking a few things for the rest of the week. Ben’s cousin came over so they could talk “business” (they’re starting a donut shop!) while I cooked up some stuff. We ran off to Target quick to pick up a few things ..
We hung around the rest of the day until we headed out to Saige’s house (my friend) for a Murder Mystery party!
It was SO much fun, but she ended up making this yummy juicy drink that went down very easily and … well, like 6 glasses later, I was way more intoxicated than I had initially planned (since I had initially planned to only have one drink LOL).
Monday, January 1
Unfortunately most of Monday morning was nursing myself back to health. I have always gotten hungover quite easily, but especially when I rarely drink, I definitely can’t handle that much alcohol anymore! It ended up being okay, though, after I ordered myself my FAVORITE brunch item at Whisk to be delivered (AKA $40 since I had to meet a $20 minimum, so Ben got it too PLUS delivery, tip, tax, idiot…)
We spent the rest of the day watching Mindhunter and then starting Ozark. It was SO nice for the both of us to just have a fully chilled out day. It’s very rare and after traveling all over for Christmas, it was nice to completely turn off at just hang out watching some tv. We made a quick spaghetti dinner and then continued watching Ozark before getting ready for our week back at work.
I’m just going to forwarn you that I don’t have a TON of photos because I was doing Vlogmas so I was more focused on getting videos. Speaking of videos, I’m pretty proud of myself for doing the FULL Vlogmas – 25 days of videos!
Sometimes it’s hard for me to keep going when I’m not getting the results I want, but I stuck to it. My thinking is when my channel DOES start growing, new subscribers will have more than 25 videos they can look through if they’d like.
Onto the weekend recap!
Friday, December 22
I had the day off on Friday 🎉 so I got up, hung out with Cora and got ready slowly – THE BEST. I headed over to a wedding venue (I know, it’s already starting …) called Salvage One. I didn’t love it at first (it’s very eclectic) but then I could see it all put together and really liked it! Plus, it’s near my place (sort of) so that’s nice, too. However, once they gave me the pricing (which was different rates than they gave me online …) and I saw it was almost $10,000 JUST.FOR.THE.VENUE. I was like, nope.
I bought myself a Starbucks on the way home which was glorious and then hung out with Cora. I made a Google Sheet doc with multiple tabs for the wedding already (duh – #plannerlife) and I already have a profile on The Knot set up, so I spent a little bit of time looking through some other venues. I actually have an appointment at my “favorite” venue (that I can tell from the website photos – and pricing) on January 3 and Ben’s coming with (it’s out in the ‘burbs so he needs to go with for that one!) so fingers crossed on that! Once the venue is booked, I can *chill* a little bit since our wedding won’t be until Summer of 2019, but venues go so quickly here so we’ve got to get that booked. Then onto the bridesmaid proposals because y’all KNOW I’m doing that.
P.S. Who here is interested in a Wedding Wednesday post or something, especially once planning gets into full force?
Ben and I watched a few shows on Netflix for the afternoon and then went to a surprise party for a friend of his later that night. I’ll be honest – I did not want to go (after sitting on the couch all afternoon) but it was fun once we got there!
Saturday, December 23
Saturday I got up with Ben when he went into work and hung out with Cora before getting to last minute packing.
We left for Green Bay around 1, dropped off Cora with my mom at my aunt’s and then headed to the Packer game! It was SO COLD. The game ended up being pretty boring (game-wise … we still had fun in the stands!), so we left at the end of the 3rd quarter to get the feeling back in our toes.
We drove up to my parents (about an hour north) and almost immediately went to bed.
Sunday, December 24
On Sunday we woke up and hung out with the fam. My sister got me an engagement present which she was too excited to wait all day to give me. All kinds of fun stuff – a bridal magazine, wine glasses, a ring holder, The Knot binder (I’m sooooo organized, y’all)… so much cool stuff!
This sparked the wedding chat and we started talking about stuff for awhile. My family is way too huge to invite down to my wedding in Chicago, so my family is probably going to throw an additional reception in my hometown later in the summer of 2019 for my family to come to.
Later that day, we made cookies and ate dinner before watching The Christmas Carol and opening gifts.
This was our first year opening gifts on Christmas Eve but Ben and I had to leave early on Christmas to get to Illinois for his family Christmas and my sister had to work.
Monday, December 25
We woke up pretty early and my dad made us some french toast (gluten free for me!) before we set off for Illinois. After about a 4+ hour drive in a LOT of wind we made it to Ben’s parent’s house and hung out with his immediate family before heading to his aunt’s house for the rest of the night.
We got home around 10 pm and all (Cora included) passed out immediately. Our first split holiday is complete!
Tuesday, December 26
Since I’m doing this post on Wednesday, I’ll throw in another day. I’m working (from home, thankfully) on Tuesday-Thursday before we’re off again on Friday. Thankfully so far it’s been pretty slow, so I was able to get some cleaning, laundry, etc. done during the day.
Ben had to work so I spent the evening looking up wedding planners (mostly because they can get you really good deals on venues and helping with a budget wedding, so I’m interested in finding out a bit more. I have a call with one this Friday and then a in-person meeting with another in a couple of weeks. The holidays are really pushing back meetings, but that’s okay. I also spent the night looking up bridesmaid proposal ideas and wedding dress salons… and then deciding that I immediately need to start losing weight and working out again LOL.
Whew, what a LONG weekend! How was your Christmas and/or weekend?
You could say it was quite the year. From moving to Chicago, getting a new job, quitting that new job, getting a puppy, traveling, moving in with Ben, losing a client and getting engaged … I mean … how am I still standing?!
My weekend has been pretty much revolving around getting proposed to on Friday night! I made a video on it, but I’ve also written it below if you’re not interested in listening to Ben and I tell the story (Though I will say the video includes Ben giving some back story on how he planned the night, so it’s a fun watch!
On Friday, December 15 I went to work just like any other day. I came home around 4:30, got dressed quickly in a little “nicer” clothes and grabbed a Lyft downtown to a restaurant named NoMi with Ben. He and I had planned to see Potted Potter at 7:30, but he had gotten a gift card to NoMi from a client that he thought would be fun to use before we went to the play. I thought it was a *little* weird since Ben doesn’t love going out to eat much (I’m the spender, he’s the saver lol) but I was also on high alert because I knew he was going to pop the question sometime in the next few months.
Once at NoMi, we were seated right by the windows with a beautiful view of the water tower and little park right next to it. I was FLOORED Ben was able to get that table, but assumed it was because he had gotten a reservation really early and we got there pretty early for dinner in the city.
Frank & Draco, Ben’s clients, we’re stopping by quick on their way to their own date night, so they stopped by our table quick and dropped off a gift. I thought it was a little fishy that they were coming by, but we weren’t seeing them until January so it didn’t throw me off too much. As soon as they left, my guard went down and I assumed there was nothing fishy happening so I could just chill. We ordered a couple of drinks and our food (Ben got chicken, I got gluten free sushi) and we chatted about the rest of the night. It was SO pretty being able to see all the lights downtown and I was absolutely loving it. Plus, the play we were going to was only a two block walk so SCORE!
After we ate, Ben decided he wanted dessert so we checked out the menu and they had a gluten free cookie skillet (I LOVE COOKIES) so Ben wanted to order that. The waitress told us the skillet took 25 minutes to make, so I was a little hesitant since it was 6:50 and our play started at 7:30 but Ben was really into this cookie for some reason 🙄 so we ordered it and continued to chat.
At that point, Ben was like “Let’s open the gift from Frank & Draco!” and I was like, “SHIT we didn’t buy them anything yet – can we stop at Crate & Barrel after we leave the play?!” but Ben was just pushing the gift bag into my lap. I opened it up and pulled out another bag that had a long box in it and I knew immediately – IT WAS A WAND!
Yeah, that big of a HP nerd that I knew before I even opened the box. The funny part is, I still thought the wand was from Frank & Draco!
I was like, “BABE THEY GOT ME A WAND OMG HOW DID THEY KNOW I LOVE HARRY POTTER” and Ben was like, “Well, take off the paper!” There was a little piece of paper that said “ALWAYS” laying over the wand. I pulled it away and … there was a sparkly ring on the wand.
“BEN, STOP IT. NO.”
He proceeded to say a bunch of stuff I don’t remember (he explains it in my YouTube video) and all I remember him saying is “Jessie Deschane” and “put on the ring!” a few minutes later! He took a bunch of pictures and the waitress came out with champagne, but I was so thrown off I wasn’t interested in pictures (thankfully he didn’t hire a photographer because I was like STOP WITH THE PICTURES.)
Ben ate the skillet cookie (I couldn’t because #nerves) while I called my sister since she was in on the whole thing.
I seriously wanted to just not go to Potted Potter, but we ended up going and it was super funny. I called my two best friends and family + Ben’s family after the play and then we went home to celebrate with Cora (AKA all fall asleep) – what a night!
I can’t believe I’m engaged! I mean, I can, because we were talking about it, but it still feels surreal. It started to feel “more real” on Saturday when we started telling people. I still couldn’t BELIEVE how many people asked me when the wedding is … or were like, “Can’t wait to come to the wedding!” and I was like … we literally just got engaged and also, I haven’t spoken to you in well over a year. It’s amazing how many people you tick off when you get engaged 😂 But after a little stressful weekend between people and me losing my client (more on that later …) it still was an amazing weekend and I’m so happy I get to spend the rest of my life with my dream guy.
Thanks for reading! Watch the video for more inside details! 🙃