Wedding Wednesday Vol. 2: Little Bits & Bobs

I love using the phrase “bits and bobs” – I blame it on watching a LOT of British YouTubers. 😍

Wedding Wednesday
If you saw last week’s post, I kind of filled you in on most of the stuff we finished. I didn’t get as much done this week because we’re kind of on a stand still until we get some $$ info figured out.

What we’ve done so far:

  • Bought a few inexpensive chalkboards and a pen holder from the Target dollar section + a plastic container to hold it all (I’m assuming I’ll be picking up a few “bits and bobs” here in the next year and a half.
  • Paid for engagement party room rental ($100)
  • We made the decision that we will probably not be getting a wedding planner. 😩  While I’d love one, I have a background in events and I don’t really *need* it. And, quite honestly, The $2000+ on a wedding planner could be used on my dress or multiple other things. I may still hire one of my previous interns to do day of planning for me, just to take some of the stress off. If I had less experience, I would hands down hire one, but since one of my dreams is to plan weddings, why not start with my own?!
  • Gotten TONS of recommendations and ideas from friends who are willing to borrow me things and/or gave ideas on ways we could cut costs
  • Had a crying fit because I felt like Ben didn’t want to get married because he’s freaked out about $$ (lollll #happyengagement we’re good now)
  • Bought “things” off Etsy for my bridesmaid boxes. Two girls’ boxes are themed one way, the other three are themed another based on their interests. I CAN’T WAIT TO DO THESE!!
  • Started adding $$ to savings account for wedding budget
  • Applied for credit card that we’ll pay for wedding expenses with (DON’T WORRY – we’ll be paying it off every month. Just want everything to be in one place.) It’s a pretty specialty card, though, so I still don’t know if I was accepted. 🤔
  • Looked through Costco to see what we could purchase there for the engagement party
  • Tried to figure out wedding colors. I’m leaning toward gold, green, white and maybe a pop of purple. Still haven’t decided if the bridesmaid dresses will be purple, though. That’s a lot of color for me!
  • Asked our AMAZING friend Frank to get ordained and be our officiant!
  • Made Facebook event + invited everyone to our engagement party

What’s next on our agenda:

  • Get coffee with Amanda + check out the engagement party room this Saturday (we’re using the party room in her high rise – thanks, friend!)
  • Book the ceremony/reception venue + set the date
  • Find an engagement party dress
  • Find engagement party decoration (will know more after Saturday coffee with Amanda) though I did get a “Yay” ballon 🤗
  • Figure out food for engagement party

Previous Posts:

Volume 1: Just Getting Started

Anything you’d like to see more of during this journey? Do you like knowing the money side of things? Once I start getting into the thick of things, I’m hoping to do videos + more photos. We’re just in beginning stages. 

Weekend Recap: I’M ENGAGED!

How do you like THAT title!

My weekend has been pretty much revolving around getting proposed to on Friday night! I made a video on it, but I’ve also written it below if you’re not interested in listening to Ben and I tell the story (Though I will say the video includes Ben giving some back story on how he planned the night, so it’s a fun watch!


On Friday, December 15 I went to work just like any other day. I came home around 4:30, got dressed quickly in a little “nicer” clothes and grabbed a Lyft downtown to a restaurant named NoMi with Ben. He and I had planned to see Potted Potter at 7:30, but he had gotten a gift card to NoMi from a client that he thought would be fun to use before we went to the play. I thought it was a *little* weird since Ben doesn’t love going out to eat much (I’m the spender, he’s the saver lol) but I was also on high alert because I knew he was going to pop the question sometime in the next few months.

Once at NoMi, we were seated right by the windows with a beautiful view of the water tower and little park right next to it. I was FLOORED Ben was able to get that table, but assumed it was because he had gotten a reservation really early and we got there pretty early for dinner in the city.

I'M ENGAGED! | A Harry Potter Proposal StoryFrank & Draco, Ben’s clients, we’re stopping by quick on their way to their own date night, so they stopped by our table quick and dropped off a gift. I thought it was a little fishy that they were coming by, but we weren’t seeing them until January so it didn’t throw me off too much. As soon as they left, my guard went down and I assumed there was nothing fishy happening so I could just chill. We ordered a couple of drinks and our food (Ben got chicken, I got gluten free sushi) and we chatted about the rest of the night. It was SO pretty being able to see all the lights downtown and I was absolutely loving it. Plus, the play we were going to was only a two block walk so SCORE!

After we ate, Ben decided he wanted dessert so we checked out the menu and they had a gluten free cookie skillet (I LOVE COOKIES) so Ben wanted to order that. The waitress told us the skillet took 25 minutes to make, so I was a little hesitant since it was 6:50 and our play started at 7:30 but Ben was really into this cookie for some reason 🙄 so we ordered it and continued to chat.

At that point, Ben was like “Let’s open the gift from Frank & Draco!” and I was like, “SHIT we didn’t buy them anything yet – can we stop at Crate & Barrel after we leave the play?!” but Ben was just pushing the gift bag into my lap. I opened it up and pulled out another bag that had a long box in it and I knew immediately – IT WAS A WAND!

Yeah, that big of a HP nerd that I knew before I even opened the box. The funny part is, I still thought the wand was from Frank & Draco!

I was like, “BABE THEY GOT ME A WAND OMG HOW DID THEY KNOW I LOVE HARRY POTTER” and Ben was like, “Well, take off the paper!” There was a little piece of paper that said “ALWAYS” laying over the wand. I pulled it away and … there was a sparkly ring on the wand.

My reaction?

“BEN, STOP IT. NO.”

Seriously. 😂

He proceeded to say a bunch of stuff I don’t remember (he explains it in my YouTube video) and all I remember him saying is “Jessie Deschane” and “put on the ring!” a few minutes later! He took a bunch of pictures and the waitress came out with champagne, but I was so thrown off I wasn’t interested in pictures (thankfully he didn’t hire a photographer because I was like STOP WITH THE PICTURES.)

I'M ENGAGED! | A Harry Potter Proposal Story Ben ate the skillet cookie (I couldn’t because #nerves) while I called my sister since she was in on the whole thing.

I seriously wanted to just not go to Potted Potter, but we ended up going and it was super funny. I called my two best friends and family + Ben’s family after the play and then we went home to celebrate with Cora (AKA all fall asleep) – what a night!


I can’t believe I’m engaged! I mean, I can, because we were talking about it, but it still feels surreal. It started to feel “more real” on Saturday when we started telling people. I still couldn’t BELIEVE how many people asked me when the wedding is … or were like, “Can’t wait to come to the wedding!” and I was like … we literally just got engaged and also, I haven’t spoken to you in well over a year. It’s amazing how many people you tick off when you get engaged 😂  But after a little stressful weekend between people and me losing my client (more on that later …) it still was an amazing weekend and I’m so happy I get to spend the rest of my life with my dream guy.

Thanks for reading! Watch the video for more inside details! 🙃